arry: "It is not as simple as that Patrickt. That person is their adopted father, not their biological father. Biology, genes, ancestry, that stuff is very important to people, which is why so many try and find their biological parents. I am not in any way degrading the wonderful love and care an adopted child may receive from their adopted mother. I am not saying she is not their 'mother'."
And I'm saying there is nothing necessary that can't be disclosed by medical records. A friend of mine wanted to commit a burglary to find out who his parents were and find them again. We sat and talked most of the evening about his biological parents and his real parents and he cried a lot. Finally he said, "I want to know why they didn't want me." Not always, but frequently, that's what it boils down to. I don't know why "all" adopted or sperm donor babies want to find their biological parents. A lot don't. We talked about the fact that it wasn't him they didn't want. They didn't even know him. They, for whatever reason, didn't want a baby at that time. With a sperm donor it's a simple as, he wanted to help someone. Let it go, read his medical history, and live. Of course, without him, living is something you wouldn't have done without him.
And what does an individual's history matter. An actor in the U.S. had a father who murdered and was executed. So what? The son has never murdered anyone and by everything I've read is a fine person. I wonder if this biological father had been more involved in his son's life if things would have turned out as well?
Where I lived, adults who'd been adopted could apply to know who their birth parents were. The birth parents would be contacted and if they agreed a meeting would be arranged. If, for whatever reason, they didn't agree then there would be no meeting. I am comfortable with that and I assume something similar is in place for the remote sperm donor.